Establishing a happy family may be a dream of many people, although the definition of a happy family for everyone is not necessarily the same. Basically, the image of a happy family is actually more than just a picture we often see in a movie or television series. For those of you who are starting to build a family or want to build a happy family in the future, consider some of the following happy family secrets.
1. Communication
Communication is an important factor for any relationship, including family relationships. Take time every day to exchange stories with your family members, at least 30 minutes a day. Dinner time is the most fitting moment to do this, try to eat together in one place, so each family member to recount their activities all day. Communication is also a key element in creating strong relationships between parents and children that will affect child care and education.
Children who communicate with their parents are more open to discuss their problems and more confidently express their opinions. Don’t forget, during these moments, all gadgets such as mobile phones, tablets and TVs should be turned off to prevent any interference with your family interaction. In difficult times, communication will also help you and your family deal with it together.
2. Joint routine
Doing fun activities together on a regular basis will strengthen the bonds between family members. You can do various activities together, such as cycling together every Sunday morning, dinner at favorite restaurants once a month, or vacation together. In addition to spending time with children to the fullest, vacation with family can also improve the quality of communication and emotional relationship between parents and children.
3. Balance family life and work
It is not easy to do, but it is important for a happy family. When spending time with family, forget your work for a moment. You don’t need to pick up the phone or reply to emails when taking time out for the family. This will make your child and your partner feel prioritized, so they will feel comfortable and confident. If you always engage with your work in front of them, your family may feel that they are not as valuable as your work.
4. Make decisions together
Decisions in the family should be a form of decision and agreed by all family members. In fact, you need to be more use to involving the child in family discussions, especially to decide something related to the child. Children who grow up in an open environment and accustomed to expression will grow into a more confident child. In addition, children who help determine family rules usually tend to follow the rules better, thus exercising their disciplinary attitudes.
You can start with a simple decision, such as defining a family vacation destination, a restaurant to visit, a clean room schedule, etc. Taking decisions together also helps create a sense of belonging that will make each family member feel important for the family.
5. Keeping a good relationship with your partner
Children learn many things from their parents. Whatever they see will be recorded by their memory and part of their learning. So if you want to teach a loving attitude to your child, there's no better way than to show it in your interactions with your partner. Home learning becomes very crucial because it will be the foundation for children when socializing in the environment.
One way to avoid giving a bad example is to try not to fight in front of your child. When you and your partner differ, settle it calmly. Talk through it and try avoid yelling at each other, especially in the presence of children. If your child is unintentionally seeing your argument and your partner, explain to your child that disagreements are natural and your argument and your partner will not last for the long term.
